Similarly, Angela Nwosu was making so much money with her spiritual work yet she married a man who was not rich and she called him her God, Soundmind. If you are single and you are making money, as a girl, waiting for a rich man would be a horrible mistake. Soundmind and Angela have eventually moved up to Dubai — ‘Japa with high tension’. Today, Angela Nwosu makes over N500 million annually on social media content creation, with utmost simplicity and grace.
(Angela Nwosu)
Do not compare a young, beautiful and decent girl from a rich background with a poor boy from the streets. Or even hardworking ladies like Vicky James and Angela Nwosu with a young man who has not found himself. In the society they don't weigh the same Karat. But for both to marry people that they’re more popular than and better than economically, it’s quite commendable. It is not common place. Although many American women are doing so today.
Julia Roberts married a camera guy, a cinematographer so to say. Danny Moder. While Julia Robert’s net-worth is about $250 million, Danny’s networth is about $10m.
Joan Collins married the poor Swede, Peter Hofrom.
Rihanna is worth $1.4 billion but she selected ASAP Rocky, who is worth $30 million.
In the dating pool, a virgin girl is considered as a woman of immense character. You can't have a good character yet you give a man who has not paid your dowry, a man not vetted by your kinsmen, the opportunity to open your Champagne, your Magnum 2.5. Where's the wisdom in that? Let him have your novel or bicycle, let him have your pot of Jollof, but not the window to your soul.
In the dating pool, a young man with immense wealth is considered as a man of value, an odogwu, as we all saw in Love in Every Word. A young man with a good skill or talent is considered as valuable as well. Even music producers such as Don Jazzy invest time and resources in talent and character. You can't change this narrative. Yet they always go down to marry younger purer, independent and humble women. They leave all those wild club girls behind. As a lady with some economic independence go ahead and marry down. Learn from Rihanna.
Between 12 and 26, every young man should have settled on who he wants to be. Women should too. Starting early makes a lot of difference according to Cosmos Maduka, CEO of Coscharis, the billionaire who married at 20.
By 2050 there will be more young girls, more educated, with better skills and more financially stable than the men in most regions of the world. This could signal the end of hypegamy as women would be completely compelled by society to marry down. (Esteve et al., 2017).1
The truth is, go around our communities, you can see thousands of men without value, single, but you can never see a beautiful virgin with good character and value, single. People are watching. They will recommend hundreds of rich young men to her for marriage. Families that raise decent girls are highly praised.
Girls don't have the same quality with boys. They don't have the same value at all. A man's value consists in his skills, wealth, and purpose. That's why a rich guy can go for a virgin at 18 from a poor family. Her virginity is considered an asset, a display of discipline which is most important for womanity. But a rich girl can't go for a virgin man from a poor family. Girl's don't have much regard for virgin men right from Deuteronomy. A girl's value is in her virginity, good character and skill. Vicky James is a fashion designer. Angela Nwosu is a spiritualist and a content creator.
Sometimes, rich young women can fall in love with poorer men. But the problem is always that the poor boy whose poverty could lead to low-self esteem, insecurity, disrespect and impatience will not be at the same frequency in terms of vibes and communication. Or sometimes, the poor boy could be looking for a girl to control or Lord over, and thereby chase the rich girl away.
This is why most poor men can't keep rich girls. This is why most girls doing well don't want to settle with men below their status. Many of the girls have been played by men who always want a woman they can subdue. That's why girls like DJ Cuppy are single. Most young men who are yet to make it can't afford to be under a richer woman. They may want to break her wings, undermine her, or even be using her money to carry babes.
In Africa, it's hard to marry a poorer man, though many young women are taking the option. If you look deeper you will surely find.
Many young men from poor-to-average families are not trained to love a woman when they don't have money. They believe money is what keeps love. They feel empty and disgruntled, thereby maltreating the rich girl if they find any. And in most cases they lack class and seasoning to even attract reach girls.
That's why Vicky James, Angela Nwosu, Rihanna, Julia Robert’s should be studied. Their romantic relationships are really encouraging.
They all have one thing in common, they know how to laugh on camera. That Joy they exude can keep a man wanting them more. Couple goal, top notch. Their lifestyle and skits inspire hope for many young men and women.
They broke the urban chasm, between the affluent and the average.
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